I test my cat’s love

I test my cat’s love

If you ask a non-cat person why they don’t
like cats, they’ll most likely say that either they’re
allergic or that cats are too… indifferent. I mean, do they even want to be your pet? I grew up with dogs and so didn’t have a
great deal of exposure to cats, but… they always seemed to scurry out of the room
whenever I walked into a friend’s house and they just didn’t seek out the attention
like you might see with a dog. So unsurprisingly, many people give cats the
reputation for being… kind of distant and cold. And I’m not gonna lie, so did I. That is, until I got Bill and Loki. These two just completely demolished what
I thought about cats. They’re social, affectionate, loyal… And they always want attention. And they show it in not-very-subtle ways. They’re about the closest thing that I have
to a kid, which got me wondering: Can cats really love you? Well, I wanna test that. First we need to answer the age-old question: What is love?
(echos of “love”) What is love?
(echos of “love”) Huh. What is-
(echos of “love”) Ahhhhh Love comes in various shapes and sizes and
there’s a big difference between loving your partner, loving your parents,
and loving the Princess Bride. Inconceivable! So can cats feel love? Of course, there’s plenty of defenders online
who say, OF COURSE CATS FEEL LOVE CATS ARE THE BEST. MY CAT LOVES ME MORE THAN MY OWN CHILDREN! But cats probably don’t have the same conscious
capacity to love like humans. And let’s not even talk about cats vs dogs
in terms of who can love you more, I mean Obviously… HOW DARE YOU! – CATS AND DOGS ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT!
– CATS CHOSE TO DOMESTICATE THEMSELVES. Why are we even talking about this? When you look up the definition of love, you
get just a ton of results. For example, “The object of admiration.” Now, I’m not really sure that Bill and Loki
have the capacity to see me as an object, so that’s not quite right. How about, “A sexual passion or desire”? No, that’s not it. How about A zero score in tennis… Oh, this one sounds more right. Alright, “a strong affection for another or
a warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion.” So now we’re headed in the right direction. That sounds about right in terms of how I
think my cats might feel about me. The relationship between a cat and their owner
is probably most similar to a baby’s love for their parent. And in psychology, if we’re talking about
love, babies, and parents, we’re almost certainly talking about attachment. Attachment is the deep emotional bond between
a baby and their caregiver. And it has undoubtedly influenced your development. And may even affect you now. See, after you’re born, you start to connect
with the person who provides most of your comfort,
affection, and food. Now, some folks believe that we started doing
this because it’s an evolutionary advantage. Babies are pretty useless, so in prehistoric
times, forming a strong bond with a caregiver meant they’d be provided for and they’d
be more likely to survive than babies who don’t. But of course, not all parents are good at
parenting. So if the caregiver is abusive or aloof or
somehow shakes the trust in that relationship, well, then the baby will adjust and learn
maladaptive behaviors that help them get their needs met. So, depending on how well your caregiver provides
physical or emotional support as a baby, that will change how you attach to your caregiver
and how you view the world around you. And this is what we call your “attachment
style”. In the 1970s, psychologist Mary Ainsworth
noticed these differences and realized that not all attachments are created equal. So she wondered, why is it that some children
grow up and feel safe to explore the world while others seem afraid to venture far from their parents and they act irrationally to stressful situations? Well, to study this, Ainsworth developed an
iconic experiment called the Strange Situation Procedure. And I swear we’re gonna get back to cats. I just need to talk about this first for it
all to make sense about what I’m doing. The Strange Situation is pretty simple. First, a baby and caregiver walk into an unfamiliar
room. In this case, a playroom set up by the experimenters
that has lots of toys. After a minute of just those two in the room,
a stranger walks in and sits down. A few minutes later, the stranger tries to
interact with the child. Shortly after, the caregiver leaves the room, leaving just the child and stranger in the room together. After about three minutes, the caregiver comes
back. After that, the stranger leaves the room and
gives the caregiver and child a few more minutes of play time. After that, the caregiver exits once more,
leaving the child in the room by themselves. A few minutes later, the stranger enters the
room and tries to interact with the child. Finally, the caregiver returns and picks up
the child. So simple, and yet you can immediately notice
differences in how infants react based on their attachment to
their parent. This procedure helped identify four distinct
attachment styles: Secure, anxious-avoidant, anxious-ambivalent,
and disorganized attachment. In Ainsworth’s study, she found that securely
attached children will freely explore the environment as long as the caregiver is present. And they’ll sort of use the caregiver as like
a “home base” to return to for comfort. They will interact with the stranger when
the caregiver is there, are visibly upset when the caregiver leaves. However, they’re able to be comforted and
seem happy when the caregiver returns. About 70% of all children have a secure attachment. In anxious-avoidant attachment, the child
will avoid or ignore the caregiver. They seem to emotionally retreat when the
caregiver leaves or returns. And they don’t really explore their environment
either. Likewise, the stranger has little impact on
their behavior, regardless of where the caregiver is. When the caregiver tries to pick them up at
the end, they seem distant and may even move away. In anxious-ambivalent, or also called anxious-resistant
attachment, the child becomes distressed and clingy when
the stranger enters, even before the caregiver leaves. And then when the caregiver does exit the
room, they become really upset. And when the parent returns, the child will
approach the parent, and then they’ll reject any sort of comfort
that the parent tries to offer. Additionally, children with this attachment
style seem resentful or unusually passive when the caregiver comes
back. Finally, the disorganized attachment style
was identified later on in 1990 by Mary Main, who was actually a colleague
of Ainsworth’s. In this style, children show a sort of an
inconsistent reaction to separation by switching between wanting to be close to
the caregiver and avoidance. Likewise, they seem to be dazed or disoriented
after the caregiver comes back. So if I’ve done my job right as a parent,
I can expect my child to have a secure attachment. And if they have a secure attachment, then
that means that they express and receive love in the appropriate
way, they’re able to develop coping skills for
dealing with stressful situations, and grow up to be confident, well-adjusted
people. …hopefully. But what about as a cat parent? Finally we’re getting back to cats! Back to cats! Well, a study published in Current Biology
in August 2019 wanted to know whether cats express that same level of affection
and devotion to their owners. So they conducted a study similar to Ainsworth’s
Strange Situation Procedure and found that..yup! Cats do form attachments. And even better, they express the same distinct
attachment styles that we see in infants. And at similar rates, with about 68% of cats
being securely attached. So I had to wonder… Are Bill and Loki securely attached? Only one way to find out. It was time to put my cats to the test. We adopted Bill and Loki from the Humane Society
when they were both around 6 months old. We don’t know much about what they experienced
before then. All we were told was that Bill came from an
overcrowded home and that Loki was a stray. Both cats are generally social and snuggly,
but Loki is pretty easily startled And Bill is… Well, Bill is needy. But despite the unknown confounding factors
from kittenhood, I think I’ve been able to foster a healthy,
secure bond. So I decided to replicate the same methodology
as the study. They used an abbreviated Strange Situation
Test called the Secure Base Test and it goes like this. Step 1: Owner and cat enter an unfamiliar
room. Step 2: Owner and cat spend two minutes in
the room together with the owner sitting in the middle of the
room. Step 3: Owner exits the room leaving the cat
alone for two minutes. Step 4: Owner re-enters the room and cat and
owner reunite. We’ll be doing our study in this small room
here. Let me give you a wide shot. Neither of the cats have been in this room
and I sort of purposefully picked A small room because, first off, it’ll be
easier to observe their behaviors. But also because it’ll limit the number of
distractions that may get in the way of our results. Now I sort of anticipate that, regardless
of the cat’s attachment style, when I leave the room, they will be visibly distressed. And that might include behaviors like a lot
of yowling or meowing, pacing, salivating, pawing or staying near the door… But, when I come back in the room, if the
cat is securely attached, then they will come up to me for comfort,
and then once they receive it, continue exploring the room around them. If they’re insecurely attached, well then
we might see any number of behaviors including excessively staying near me and seeking out
attention. Avoiding me altogether and staying on the
other side of the room. Or this sort of back-and-forth where they
approach, looking for attention, and then walk away. Like they don’t know what they want. I don’t know what to expect, but enough talk. Let’s go do this. Okay, so as per procedure, I entered the room
with each cat, open the carrier, and sat down in the middle
of the room. I tried to be as consistent as I could with
both cats because… ya know, gotta get those reliable results. And as you can see, Bill and Loki each start
to explore the room. And just sniff around and see what it’s all
about. You can see how they’re sort of using me as
a “home base” and if we were to track their movement, you
can see how they kind of ping pong from me to other parts of the room. Just really interesting stuff. Okay, now it’s time for me to leave. This is by far the worst part. As soon as I go, both cats are immediately
distressed. It was really difficult. I was just outside the door, but was hard staying out there for the whole two minutes
while listening to them yowl inside. Finally, I came back inside after the two
minutes were up. And this is where the real observation starts. So, let’s take a look at each, one by one. So with Loki, I came back into the room and
he seemed immediately relieved. He stopped yowling and, after getting a few
pets, a little bit of affirmation, he has returned to exploring the room and
this is what we like to see. He’s easily comforted, all is right in the
world, and he’s able to cope with the stress he
just experienced, so… good job Loki. Carry on. With Bill, let’s see what happens. He was yelling up a storm when I was gone. I came back in and… he stopped yelling. That’s a good sign. And he comes up for attention, that’s also
good. But now this is interesting. I sat there for quite a while, waiting for
Bill to get comfortable again and start exploring, but… it never happened in the entire two minutes. I even let it go longer just to see what would
happen. And instead, you can see how he sticks near
me. He keeps rubbing against me and won’t go
more than a foot away from me. So even though he has plenty of space, plenty
of things to explore and sniff at, he seems like he’s been spooked and I could
imagine he’s thinking that if he moves too far away from me, I might
leave him again. So, poor Bill. So, there you have it. It appears that Loki is securely attached, and Bill…oh poor Bill. It appears that Bill has an anxious-ambivalent
attachment style, which makes him more clingy than usual. In the original study, they actually took
the cats who had an insecure attachment style and enrolled them in a six-week socialization
and training program to see if the owners could change their cats’ attachment
style. Turns out….not so much. So while humans can change their attachment
style through new experiences and therapy, your cat’s attachment style will stay relatively
stable. You can do this experiment with your cats
if you want to. And I’m pretty sure it works with dogs, too. So let me know down in the comments what your
pet’s attachment style is. It’s amazing how much more emotional these
little guys are than we give them credit for. Anyway, thanks for watching. Until next time, I’m Micah…think about

100 thoughts on “I test my cat’s love

  1. My cat is weird she runs away from me 98% of the time whenever i get close to her, but thats when shes not in my room, when shes in my room or more specifically on my bed whenever i get close to her she just stays there

  2. Yes cats love you & I'll see mine when I'm back in heaven. In fact I don't want any humans just all my little kitties and all kitties . NO HUMANS ALLOWED !

  3. I think mine have an unhealthy attachment 😉 course that is my own fault as I tend to baby them overly. Oliver freaks out if I am in the shower, even going so far as to try to reach in and pull me out! then as soon as I am out he is trying to comfort me with hugs and smooches cause he is stressed so I must be too. If I don't hug Xander and Buffy enough every few hours they will liberality fly through the air and we had better catch them or end up with some good scratches cause they are getting held like it or not. I was standing in the kitchen one day not paying attention cause I was talking to a friend and no warning got hit in the chest with a flying Buffy! it is just a good thing I am used to it that I caught her!

  4. Ya man. Cats are totally misunderstood. They are the only species that decided to bond with humans. We didn't domesticate them.

  5. Yeah, no shit Bill has anxiety issues… "he came from an overcrowded home" as you said. So essentially, the first part of your experiment where you leave the room for 3 minutes…. Bill probably meows like that when you leave the house every day too, and you might not know it. Because his original owner(s) left him before. What might keep him calm is tue fact that he gets along with the other one you have. I have 3 cats. I didnt know that 1 of my 3 meows by the door 15minutes after i leave every day until my security camera showed it to me.

  6. I really thought that I am the only one who does this kind of experiment . In the past 5 years I have three stray cat been adopted , and I made sure they are free as well as kind of secure attached 🙂 The way you explained the context is mind blowing … thumbs up 10 times ..

  7. i used to cut myself in high school, and almost every time, my cat would meow and rub against my leg. maybe it was because i was crying and she was curious, but it made me feel loved. she's sleeping at the foot of my bed right now. 🙂

  8. This experiment deserves to be expanded upon, in my opinion.
    Would the results change if the cats were introduced to a stranger, like in the original experiment? This would help us understand if they need comfort from anyone, or just you specifically. What if you put two cats in the room together and leave? Will they socialize with each other? Would the addition of cat toys in the room distract them at all?

  9. That was really cool. Thx! That “I’m allergic card” 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️. Most people who say that are ridiculously obviously not allergic that enter my home.
    Sometimes all my 6 cats are napping and they don’t know I own cats…no allergy symptoms for an hour. My cats enter the room…they’re immediately allergic.
    If you do not like cats just say so. I have nice places I can put my cat. Now take a guy who says he’s allergic and have him meet a hot girl who owns a cat.
    He’s willing to hold that cat to be with that hot girl…an hour later…no allergy symptoms. 😂😂😅😅

    I love that test!

  10. Dogs and cats don't feel or perceive love they way humans do. Do NOT anthropomorphize them. It doesn't mean you're not important to them or that they won't "mourn" if you're gone. But what we consider love, no, they don't feel that.

  11. too much buildup and exposition but super tiny conclusion. kind of interesting but couldve trimmed a couple of minutes off the beginning or elaborated more on the results at the end

  12. I have two cats with the same attachment styles as yours (I think)! Rina has a secure attachment and feels comfortable exploring new spaces as long as she has one of us to use as a base. But Simon becomes very upset and difficult to comfort, and he clings to my mom like plastic wrap. It's funny because they're siblings and we adopted them when they were about 10 weeks old, but they have such different temperaments.

  13. Yesterday when I brought 2 friends over my cat was a bit thoughtful of getting any closer to them although he already knew one of them. He approached them when I told him to while I was behind him but when I left to the bathroom he stood a bit there and then followed me right away as always to watch me from the end of the room. What would that be?

  14. No it is phycologicaly proven that cats prefer to be independent. It's in their genes. And it's in the genes of the dogs to be more dependent and affectionate of humans.

  15. My cat cuddles with me and reflects my emotions by acting upset when I am upset, she's more playful when I am happy, also she knows if I am sick before I do. My cat lays with me and on top of me when I am going to have a seizure, as if she knows I am going to have a seizure. She cleans my head a few moments before I have my seizures also she cries out hellrow! several times out the front door trying to get people to help me. I have to let it pass but she doesn't understand that. She still tries to help me. She also loves my in home assistance worker Joyce. She has a few people who she favors. She also bathes herself in the bathroom sink while I am sleeping. Cats are like autistic people, they are honest and mostly nonverbal. I am an autistic woman so I know what it's like. I adopted my cat in 2009, my stepdad surprised me at the shelter I thought we were going to adopt a dog but he said I can visit the cats before we go visit the dogs. As I walked into the cat shelter a lady greeted me and surprised me she said my stepdad wants me to pick a cat. I didn't pick a cat, I chose three kittens who tried to love on me through the cages and my Boo was the only one that climbed in my lap and acted like I was her's. She chose me. I got to take her home three days later after she got her shots and everything else she needed to be healthy. She's a very good cat, she sets on command and she plays fetch like a dog. She doesn't beg for food because I keep her busy and fed. I always share my turkey meat and tuna with her. I am going to have stop sharing the tuna with her, she got sick last few times. I know she loves me very much. She also loves my boyfriend he's her human daddy. He also has a cat, she loves me too. I was nicknamed Cat girl or Snow White when I was younger because the neighborhood cats and birds followed me to school and waited outside the classroom doors for me to come out. There usually would be twelve cats and tree black birds. My friends and family still call me Snow White.

  16. I've had my cat for almost 20 years and her love is superior to most human bonds I've experienced. she's so gentle, patient and kind yet always comes back to be with me. people don't understand cats because cats are very chill and secure in themselves and thus they are expressing their feelings in a very dignified, calm way. it's like they're never in a hurry, the way dogs can be, but they are always there, silent, patient and ready to purr, or waiting in the window for you when you come home.

  17. funny now that I think about it my cat Alexes is similar to your cats but differently I may not have done the test but I can guess what the results are. You have two cat that reacted in two different ways but with my only cat between me and my roommate she reacts in two different ways she is Anxious-Ambivalent towards my roommate but with me she kind of Secure but it does get really weird with both me and my roomy in the room or one of us leaving or both. It a cool idea and I hope my hypotheses it correct because she is my cat in the end.

  18. I had a very difficult and depressing experience recently I was not myself for days. I have a cat a very quirky cat she doesn't like getting pet or sitting on people's laps she wants to claw and bite instead. During that time she came to confront me she sat on my lap and let me pet her for hours and hours with her purr she did this every day until I was not depressed anymore, Love This Crazy Cat. I still fed my cat during that time btw so it wasn't that I neglected her and she decided to play nice because of it, no she somehow felt that something was not OK. And she tried her best to cheer me up best Cat Ever <3 .

  19. My parents have never wanted pets, but my teenage sister was suffering from bad anxiety so to try and help they got her a kitten. He's taken over the whole house. He worships my sister but he's got every one else in the house wrapped round his little paw. Cats can win over the hardest of hearts.

  20. When I had my son we ended up living with my parents for a few years. My mother was devisive and emotionally manipulative in ways I had not foreseen. We lived on pins and needles with my son stuck in the middle with his grandma since both my husband and I worked. He now has general anxiety disorder. He is highly intelligent, funny, kind and handsome, but finds it difficult to go into the world. It has been a difficult path to become more confident in himself. Your explanation can explain why cats and children can be similar when it comes to attachment issues. Luckily children like my son can overcome this issue with time and therapy.
    Interesting how cats cannot. It does show how deeply emotional their minds. Apparently their brains are similar to ours in some way. Can you do an episode on how similar their brains are to human? And no! please do not dissect your precious cats!! 😎

  21. My oldest cat is 14 yrs old. She is mostly content to just BE in the same room. If I leave,she will follow me where ever I go. If I close the door, she lies on the bed and waits for my return, When I open the door she is right there and immediately when I sit down, she comes over and demands attention, The she will sit next to me and continually touch me with her paw. She will do that for as long as I sit there. If get up, she will watch me closely. If I lie down on the bed, she will cone and lie right next to me, usually with her upper body on my pillow, or on my shoulder. She does like contact with any od our other cats and will chase them from my room, growling and hissing, I spent most of my leisure time in the room with her. She is very needy, She can not possibly be insecure because I spend alot of time with her. I read out loud to her and talk to her also,.

  22. We never wanted cats but now we have 4 cats and a dog. How did that happen? Well one day behind a neighbours barn we heard some distressed crying coming from a gutter.. We took a ladder and climbed to top of the rood and it was a little kitten around 3 weeks or so old. Probably mommy cat dropped it and couldnt get it back. We took the kitten thinking we would nurture it and help it untill mom cat comes back or someone would want to addopt… Mom cat never came back and no one adopted. So that was our first cat. A year later stray cat who we and neighbours have been feeding for years prior had 3 kittens on our garage roof. We took them all in, and after several weeks it was decided by us and our neighbour that he will take mom cat and 2 kittens leaving one with us so that our first cat has cat company. We just couldnt say no to cats at this point. We now had 2 cats. Two years later our relative's cat had given birth to 4 beautiful egyptian kittens. We took 2. And now we have 4 cats.

  23. Good information BUT tooooo long. Drifted off too much about other stuff and needed to stay "just abt cats". No more, no less. Still a good video. You have an awesome t.v. personality.

  24. I distinctly remember I was the anxious-ambivalent type as a toddler. Was the upset type. blame my genes or parents. I barely had any control over it. 😅

  25. It's kind of interesting that cats apparently show affection similarly to that of a human infant; I remember reading an article a couple of years ago that said that cats basically see humans as big, dumb kittens (while dogs are able to see humans as a different species), which may be related to why cats meow at us (cats will usually only meow at humans and young kittens) and why they bring us prey (sometimes prey that isn't even dead)

  26. Was Loki an abandoned stray, or a feral kitten? Either way, his time as a stray seems to have given him more independence and self-confidence. His startle reaction was important as a stray for survival, so it imprinted on him. Bill came directly from other people. He learned early that a person he"s attached to can disappear. I bet you anything that's why he's needy and reacted the way he did when you came back. For him, the possibility that you might leave and not come back is very real.

  27. My cat greets me at the door he's always there when I'm depressed or dealing with chronic pain issues PTSD of course he loves me I would go as far as to say he chose me from the moment a12 week old kitten made eye contact withe that was it love at first sight

  28. As a cat, we feel love we just show it differently~ I don’t have an owner due to me being a werecat but… yeah we feel love~
    (I am an alter in a DID system) -Lightning

  29. Hardest things to do
    > Sneezing and not closing your eyes
    > Squeezing a large turd
    > Leaving your cats for 2 mins

  30. my pets (cats) are getting extremely close to me weeks b4 they die….. the rest of time they tend to be between distant … somewhat close … close-but-not -too-much and totally ignoring me besides food. Actually the last state of mind is what I like nost

  31. anxious ambivalent (and I don't need to run the test to prove it). And here I thought it was because she was traumatised as a kitten . . .

  32. i mean, i grew up with cats, had cats around me most of my life, i dont even need to watch this video to know the answer is a YES but i will anyway.

  33. my Leo is just like youe Bill, the only difference is my leo will pee on all over the walls….
    i found Leo when he was a day old mama cat abandoned him, he had no siblings, i raised him… he is my son 😁

  34. My cat always bites me when i try to pet her or punch me.
    But i know she loves me
    Becuz she always wait for me to come home then hides after lol 😂 so yeah they do love us but they also put boundary to their private space.

  35. Do you think cats recognize their owners? What would happen if instead of you waking back in, a different person came in. Would the cats respond similarly ?

  36. My cat is a mainecoon and he’s always attached to my hip, he learned to walk on a leash so he’s unstoppable lol I played dead and he ran and got my bf to come get me lol he’s the size of a small dog(13lbs) and he’s literally a child lol

  37. When I leave the room to prepare my cat’s food, I tell him, “Momma will be back in a few minutes.” When I return to our room with his food, he runs, from the spot he was sitting and waiting by the door, to go hide under the bed and he stays there until I have the door securely closed. Then he comes out from under the bed meowing until I pet him. (His meow is not very loud.) He rubs his face and head against my hands for more petting.
    The peculiar thing is, he will look at and sniff the food in his bowl, but before he will eat he walks away from it to come sit beside me where I am sitting, and begs for more head-rubs, and attention. After about five to eight minutes of this “loving” he seems to be satisfied and he returns to his bowl to eat his food.

    If I am going to leave the house and leave him in our room, so that I may run errands, I tell him, “Momma, will be back after awhile.” In response, he will run to the door with me, he is vocalizing like he desires to go with me, or stand between me and the door to keep me from leaving. Once I get by him and I have have securely shut the door, I can hear him crying. After watching this video, I realize I was correct in my conclusion that he has been experiencing “separation anxiety” all along. He also misses my husband, and shows this in his persistent and repetitive vocal meows when my husband comes into the room.

    This cat was brought to us by a family who had rescued him when he was about two to three weeks of age. They kept him two weeks then decided it would be best if he was placed in a different environment. They reached out to us.

    Our senior cat of 17 years, had passed away (the same week they rescued this tiny kitten). We were not looking to have another cat so soon after our cat passed away, but surprisingly, my husband said, “yes we’ll take him”.

    From the time we took him in, I was home 24/7 with this new baby from, November 6, 2018 until January 7, 2019. I had to leave our home to move in with my parents. Mother suddenly became gravely ill. My husband, still working, stayed in our house with our kitten and our ferret. (We live 13-miles away.) I was able to return home very few times. After my Mother moved to heaven, our family determined my Daddy should not be left alone because his health is very fragile. So, here I remain.

    Meanwhile, during the year I have been away, my husband has reported that our once sweet, affectionate baby kitten has turned into a “crazy”, “mischievous”, “destructive”, “monster cat” with bad behavior, climbing the walls (literally), he has even witnessed the cat cling, upside down from the ceiling fan, like a monkey. I told my husband the cat is not used to being alone, he is bored, and he is “acting out” like a rebellious child, and not happy being alone. In short “separation anxiety”.

    Last week, the doctor told my husband that his recent bout with pneumonia is because he is allergic to the cat. The doctor told him he needed separate himself from the cat and all items related to the cat.

    Previously, my Daddy would not allow the cat to be brought here to his house, for fear his dogs would kill the cat, should he accidentally get out of my room. But, we explained our dilemma, and reluctantly he has allowed us to bring the cat into the house. I keep him in the bedroom where I stay.

    We named him Buzz Light Year, after one of our Granddaughter’s favorite toys (she was three at the time), we call him Buzz. And his physique is very similar to the Norwegian Forest Cat. At 18-months old, he weighs 10- pounds. He seems to be happy here, he does not behave the way my husband describes.

    I know this has been a very long post, but I felt I needed to give historical background to go with the descriptions of Buzz’s behavior to me as opposed to when he is with my husband. I hope this edited version makes sense. Thank you for your comments. 🐱

  38. A little story about my cat, Fripouille. Even since I was a baby, he was there watching over me, sleeping with me and keeping me company. He was my only friend when I had no one to turn to during a chaotic childhood. Until one day, when I was 14, he was hit by a car early in the morning. Even though he was mortally injured, he managed to come back home, and climb up on my bed to check on me while I was still asleep. It went downhill once the rush of adrenaline died down. We rushed him to the vet at 7am around there, right before the clinic could open. I was forced to go to school, but having my bestfriend agonizing at the vet was unbearable so at 4pm, my mother took me back with my brother to go and check on him. There was no word to describe how much damage he took in the car accident, and he was fighting so fiercely just to breathe.
    We cried, told him that we loved him. And as I passed the doorway to leave the room, I heard him puke.

    Later in the day, or the next day, I don't know… We returned and we were told that he passed away as soon as we left, that he puked blood and just stopped fighting. I heard my brother die and I didn't know about it until then, and it devastated me.

    My bestfriend, Fripouille, 15 years old, fought a whole day of agony just to say goodbye.

    As Adnan says, a cat's love is immeasurable and there are many stories to prove it time and time again.

  39. I already know my cat is in securely attached haha. I was hoping I could help her out but looks like I'm stuck with my little cling monster. Ah well. I love her anyway

  40. I got a five year old shelter cat and she is attaching herself to my mom. It’s interesting to see because she never had a pet that wanted her. When she was little, she wanted a dog and her father got a hunting dog that she couldn’t play with. As an adult, she has given my sisters and I one dog and some cats, but none pay her any real attention except for being the one who’s the “maid” as I call it. I think it’s nice that she finally after all these years is finally getting a pet of her own. Though, truth also be told, I wish the cat wouldn’t treat me as “the maid”.

  41. Good question. There was a time when this question was never considered…… and still is today. It is the question all pet guardians need to think about. It revolves around the term "relationship". Do we have a relationship with our cats? Think about that. If you do, don't you want to nurture and nourish that relationship. Sound familiar? Like family. Talk to them the way you would any other family member….every day… in every way possible …..include them in your life. This is how you develop a bond with your cat. Love.

  42. I have definitive proof that cats love their owners — when my Dad passed away his cat would yowl and search the entire house for him for several days after he passed. Eventually she settled back down with me as her caregiver, but I felt so badly for her for those days that she missed him.

  43. I have two cats myself . The first one , i adopted him when he was approximately 10 days old.. i bottle fed him , he slept next to me , my whole family took turns in taking care of him but that was my job , they were assisting when i was unable to . He was always around people, friends relatives neighbors, pizza delivery guys etc .Now he is 7 months old.. The second one was a stray cat . When i found her she was skin and bones , dirty, had a respiratory infection and was very feral towards people but not others cats. As a matter of fact thats how i was able to catch her . I lured her with my other cat in a trap cage . I have her for a very long time now and she s gotten attached to me . However , they both display similar attachment styles to Loki and Bill. The female . Lola ,same as Loki , being the stray one has formed a secure attachment , while the male , Picolino , just as the domesticated and human familiarized since and infant Bill, has formed an anxious – ambivalent attachment . My theory is that , the stray one has survived alone for quite sometimes, has been through ordeals and survived regardless , which gives the cat a sense of security and trust in their own abilities . While the one who s never learned to survive alone will get panic attacks and find themselves helpless and hopeless in the though of their caregiver abandoning them and them being left alone .

  44. I'm a "cat person" by default. I don't especially like cats and wouldn't go out of my way to get one but I've always had one. Lost and dumps find me and turn out to be my best buddy. My last "owner" was a lost, likely dumped, Russian Blue. He didn't have a good previous home… really skiddish and insecure at first. I had him for 18 years. You have NEVER seen a more laid back animal in your life. Wish I would have gotten a video of it, he actually would share his wet food with mice on occasion. Really !!! My latest is a dumpster rescue. Stinker was about 5 weeks old, emaciated, starving with serious flea infestation, sinus and eye infections. It was late winter and he wouldn't have lasted longer than a couple more days. He used every ounce of strength he had to pull himself up, peek over the edge and meow at me. I said "meet your new subject". My Blue had passed about 6 months earlier. Today, he's fat and happy quite proud of himself with the control he has over my life. BTW: ""Stinker" … eats like a hog and passes gas all night. Coal black demon spawn from hell and stuck on me like velcro… Quite a character…

  45. Our elder kitty who passed a year ago had to spend the night at the vet once to get his teeth cleaned. When we came back to pick him up he jumped towards me, probably relieved he wasn't surrendered to the vet. Also, we have a type of shed in our garden with more windows and it's arranged like a salon with seats and stuff. The cats aren't allowed inside, but when we were inside the same kitty would lay in front of the entrance, even tho he had the whole garden to snooze in. Our other cats are attached to us but he in particular was a very special boy. No doubt he loved us.

  46. The “Scottish fold” cats actually tend to have health problem associated with the deformation of the cartilage-that May cause him to be more clingy.

  47. Whenever I'm away at my boyfriend's for a few days, my mom will tell me about how much my cat misses me. She'll go sleep on my mom's head lol.

  48. Both of my cats are rescue cats and both incredibly clingy (less so over time).
    On the odd occasion, with each of them, they thought I’d gone out and started making that yelping noise at the front door. But I hadn’t gone out, so when I called them they stopped and just went to their favourite sleeping space.
    At one point when I lived with my dad he said they [the cats] would wait at the front door from about 45mins before I usually arrived home each evening.

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